a little request

I have lots… and LOTS… of mom-blogging friends. Now wait: if you just got offended, and you are a mom blogger, I’m actually about to compliment you.

Stay-at-home moms, working moms, adoptive moms, single-parent moms, all kinds of moms: you are incredible. I love reading your blog because it gives me insight into a role that I do not now play. I get to watch your life like I would a movie: unattached yet empathetic. And you write on a variety of topics… from cloth diapering to nap schedules, having children with disabilities and dealing with infertility, play-dates and strollers, and I love every minute of it. Again, I have lots of Mom-blogging-friends. And I love each one of you. I read your blogs because I am genuinely interested in how being a mom has changed your life.

But, I will confess, I need some wife-blogging friends.

I know that sometimes, you just have to ask for what you want. So here’s what I want: if you’re a wife of any kind… struggling wife, work-more-than-your-husband wife, wish-you-could-stay-at-home-wife, cooking wife, non-cooking wife, domestic-diva wife, couldn’t-clean-a-bathroom-to-save-your-life wife, pregnant wife or longing wife, been married 20 years or 20 minutes, kids-hanging-off-your-legs wife or childless wife, whatever kind of wife you are… will you blog about your marriage?

And, can we be blogging friends? And, while we’re at it, would you mind passing along some marriage secrets? Oh, and, if it wouldn’t be too much… could you also be as transparent and honest as possible, because truthfully, I don’t have a lot of time for pep-talks?

Kyle and I are great. It’s just that I can’t help but notice the abundance of mommy blogs, parenting books, parenting magazines, parenting articles, and how few “here’s how to be an incredible partner, and how to love each other until you die,” resources are out there. And if they are everywhere on the interwebs, and I just haven’t found these gems, pass them on along. Please.

I’ve read the books. And they have all been fabulous. Sacred Marriage, Intimate Allies, Love & Respect, 5 Love Languages, His Needs Her Needs… just to name a few. It’s just that… now I’m ready to hear some real stories. Blood-and-guts, here’s where we really struggle, and here’s how I get over myself stuff. I don’t want to do this marriage thing halfway. And I could use some help. So, let’s start a conversation.

5 thoughts on “a little request”

  1. so true! I never really realized it, but there is a definite space to be filled in blogland in this area. I love the mom blogs too, and who knows, I may semi become one? But for some reason it’s easier and more accepted to right about the joys & struggles of raising littles, but not so much when it comes to the in-and-out daily life of husbands and wives. hmm….

  2. I’m right there with you! I’m just starting on my own blogging journey (started as a way to keep myself accountable for being creative and well, me) but I’m finding more and more that it all has to do with my relationship with God and my husband and how I navigate the waters. (Nevermind those who feel that we are ready for kids.) My husband and I are consciously working on ourselves right now and we feel that it enough for us right now.

  3. It is, sadly, a neglected topic. It’s so much easier to blog about kids because they (usually) can’t read what you’re writing and aren’t likely to get upset that you’ve exposed their booger eating secret to the world. A husband on the other hand isn’t usually okay with his struggles, failures, and issues being broadcasted on the web. Then of course for me, there’s the issue of being a minister’s wife and walking that line between honesty and hurting my husband’s reputation in the church. If you find any great blogs like you’re looking for, let me know!

    1. I agree. Transparency is especially tricky in a public leadership role, I am still toeing that line myself… trying to figure out what is being authentic and what is giving people too much access. It’s hard to define who is nosy and who is genuinely interested in being apart of my life. One of my coworkers recently told me that if I trust Jesus as the healer of all, I will also trust that He will heal damage done by people that surround me.

      What I am committed to is figuring out how to show others around me how to live a confessional life that doesn’t pretend. I don’t know what the balance is between being fake and over-sharing, but there’s got to be one.

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