a little request

I have lots… and LOTS… of mom-blogging friends. Now wait: if you just got offended, and you are a mom blogger, I’m actually about to compliment you.

Stay-at-home moms, working moms, adoptive moms, single-parent moms, all kinds of moms: you are incredible. I love reading your blog because it gives me insight into a role that I do not now play. I get to watch your life like I would a movie: unattached yet empathetic. And you write on a variety of topics… from cloth diapering to nap schedules, having children with disabilities and dealing with infertility, play-dates and strollers, and I love every minute of it. Again, I have lots of Mom-blogging-friends. And I love each one of you. I read your blogs because I am genuinely interested in how being a mom has changed your life.

But, I will confess, I need some wife-blogging friends.

I know that sometimes, you just have to ask for what you want. So here’s what I want: if you’re a wife of any kind… struggling wife, work-more-than-your-husband wife, wish-you-could-stay-at-home-wife, cooking wife, non-cooking wife, domestic-diva wife, couldn’t-clean-a-bathroom-to-save-your-life wife, pregnant wife or longing wife, been married 20 years or 20 minutes, kids-hanging-off-your-legs wife or childless wife, whatever kind of wife you are… will you blog about your marriage?

And, can we be blogging friends? And, while we’re at it, would you mind passing along some marriage secrets? Oh, and, if it wouldn’t be too much… could you also be as transparent and honest as possible, because truthfully, I don’t have a lot of time for pep-talks?

Kyle and I are great. It’s just that I can’t help but notice the abundance of mommy blogs, parenting books, parenting magazines, parenting articles, and how few “here’s how to be an incredible partner, and how to love each other until you die,” resources are out there. And if they are everywhere on the interwebs, and I just haven’t found these gems, pass them on along. Please.

I’ve read the books. And they have all been fabulous. Sacred Marriage, Intimate Allies, Love & Respect, 5 Love Languages, His Needs Her Needs… just to name a few. It’s just that… now I’m ready to hear some real stories. Blood-and-guts, here’s where we really struggle, and here’s how I get over myself stuff. I don’t want to do this marriage thing halfway. And I could use some help. So, let’s start a conversation.

prayer from assisi

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury,pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.

O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. Amen.

(Francis of Assisi)